Boyfriend or just seriously dating someone
I felt able to assert that I needed to make my own decisions about my friends, and who I spend time with, but also that I respect his discomfort in this issue, so I think we reached a good conclusion, but I still feel a bit unsettled. Hi Person Who Enjoys Chilling, I’m assuming Steve didn’t say anything really racist or otherwise horrifying in the few moments that he and your boyfriend interacted.In that case, my read is that your boyfriend is a bit jealous of Steve but also thinks that he is above such petty emotions as jealousy so he is transforming it into “concern” for you and using language like “toxic” and worry about drinking and its “influence” on you.
If your boyfriend suddenly stops making plans with you, or stops talking about the future he sees with you, it’s a bad sign. He told me that in the future he wants to live in a different country, but never mentioned anything about me coming with him.And the easiest way to relieve this guilt is by convincing himself that the feelings are mutual and in fact, you don’t love him anymore either. How relieved would you be if you stopped loving a guy but knew that he feels the same and won’t be heart-broken by it when you tell him?That’s what’s going in his mind (probably subconsciously). If your boyfriend does one of these things: My ex boyfriend not only found stupid excuses to avoid seeing me, calling me and answering my texts, but made sure I found out he was lying.Now I’m dating a guy who is super lovely, like a beam of sunshine whose patronus is a golden retriever.The thing that sometimes overwhelms me is his enthusiasm, actually, maybe because he’s Australian and I’m an American whose been living in Britain for 10 years, who knows.My boyfriend didn’t go out with us because he didn’t like this friend from the get-go, and later he said he was baffled as to why I would spend time with this friend (who is a casual friend; I see him maybe once every 6 months or so, we go out for drinks with other friends).
The friend, let’s call him Steve, is – to me – an over-the-top guy who is a bit of a mess, but we get on well and I don’t take him too seriously.
One of my ex boyfriends (I was so in love with him) told me that he still loves me but not sure he wants to live with me anymore and wants to try living apart (But not break up).
This was of course a load of BS, but I couldn’t handle the underlying message and stayed with him for a whole month after he moved out from our apartment.
He drinks too much and does drugs, and I don’t partake in the latter but am happy to go out for a pint with him and other friends.
It’s probably important to note that Steve and I had a very casual fling last summer and then it settled into a friendship by my choosing, a year before I started dating my boyfriend, and my boyfriend knows this and claims that it’s not a problem.
Every day I waited for him to change his mind and come back, until a month later I told him I can’t do this anymore and broke up with him.